I was heart-sick at the sudden death of my father-in-law. I could barely deal with my personal loss when I realized that I was the one that needed to make all the arrangements. My mother-in-law’s grief at the loss of her husband and best friend of 72 years was much worse than mine, and she was unable to attend to any of the details. I feel I managed well under the circumstances, although when my husband requested I ask his daughters to deliver a eulogy for grandparent, I agreed only so that I could help and support them through the process. They were so grateful when I suggested they use some websites to help them deliver a heart-felt speech.